30 Days of Blogging Honesty: The Dare

 

Here is what I picked as my Dare —

Category: Youngins
Write a letter to your 16-year-old self and post it. Detail your journey.

Dear 16-year-old Sylvia, this letter is from the grown-up Sylvia and I wanted to share somethings with you that I have learned along the way.

First, I want to tell you that you really need to concentrate on your senior year in high school. Yes, it’s a time to have fun, but you really need to try to get good grades to go to your next step.

The route we took was going to the local community college. It was a great school and I made some good friends during my time there. But I have wondered what our life would have been like if we went away to college? While we were at the community college, we stayed at home with out parents. Would our life’s turned out differently if we went away and lived on our own during this time?

Entering our 20’s — just a little hint, when you turn 20 you are not a your half way point in life. You didn’t see your life after 40 and when you turned 20, you thought half your life was over. You are such a little kid. There is life after 40 and you shouldn’t worry about half your life over.

After we graduated from college, we moved to Massachusetts, our aunt was living there and we decided to move out there to see how things were. We had fun, we worked and made some new friends there. We were only there for a year and then came back home to live with the parents. Looking back, should we have stayed there longer? What would have happened if we stayed there? I liked living there and being next to the ocean, but being poor SUCKED. At the time, it seemed like a good idea to move back home.

Other things that happened in our 20’s were the births of our nephew, Brad and niece, Pam. They are the best things that ever happened in our lives! We love them so much and our so proud of who they have become as young adults.

We had friends and shared good times with them. Unfortunately, as we got older, we grew apart and no longer are friends with them. It’s sad, but we take all the good times and memories with us and leave the bad ones behind.

As during this time, our mom got sick with Rheumatoid Arthritis. You really need to do more for our mom. Be more patient. Listen better and keep your mouth shut when you need to. You may think it’s a pain at the time, but as you will read later, you are going to miss those times.

Now we are entering our 30’s — at this age, you realize all your troubles and problems in your 20 are crap. Of course they meant something then when you were living it, but once you in your 30’s you have a whole different view on what is important and what you can let go. I only wish I knew this in my 20’s and not worry about all the stuff that I did.

Other things that we did in our 30’s were:

• went back to school to get our Bachelor’s degree — it took us a while, but we finally got it.
• made new friends and had some great adventures and some adventures we would like to forget.
• had some jobs, some good and some not so good. Favorite job was working at The Palace of Auburn Hills. We should have stuck it out there longer than we did.
• moved to Kentucky to live near our sister and her family. We had never lived in the same State or city, so it was nice being able to see them living near them.

At this age, we still haven’t mastered the skill to forgive people and not to get disappointed by people. And we finally realized that not everyone has COMMON SENSE!  I know, I know… we just assumed that everyone had common sense, but they don’t.

Now we have entered our 40’s… I swear, once you turn 40 a switch goes off in your head were you don’t care what people think of you. You don’t care if people don’t like the way you look or dress. You don’t care what people think about the path you took in life or how how you got there. I only wish this switch would have gone off in our 20’s, it would have saved us a lot of heartache and headache!

As in our late 30’s, early 40’s we moved to Texas, which is something we never thought we would do. But after our dad retires, they decided to move back to their hometown were they grew up. So when you decided to move from Kentucky, you decided to go to Texas to be near the family. So far it’s been nice. Not really sure if you are going to live there for a long time, but for right now, it’s the place to be.

Also during this time, you realize that there are two kinds of people in this world — one’s that should be married and have children and those who should be on their own, a Lone Wolf. We fall in the l category of being a Lone Wolf. At this stage of your life, you live with the fact that you won’t be getting married and have children.

Something you do for fun is writing in your blog. When you first created the blog, you thought to yourself”who in the heck will read your blog and what you are thinking?” But there are people who visit your blog and sometimes like what you write. You will find out that writing in our blog is sometimes therapeutic and introduce you to a bunch of different people.

Now, probably the most important event that has ever happened in your life was when out mom died in 2010. There are so many words to describe how you feel when this happened — sad, mad, angry, guilty, depressed, lonely, lost, confused are just to name a few. Even after two years, you still feet like that, but not every minute like before. There are times when you think you should have done things different, like spending more time with our mom or not getting pissed off at our mom or what’s going on. But you can not let those times eat you up. Now if I could only practice what I preach!

So now, we are in our 40’s and we still have found what we want to do in our life! I wish there was a way to know what we are suppose to do and who we are suppose to be when we are younger. I think it would make life a whole lot easier!

Now there are some other things that have happened in between being 16 and to where we are now. But I just wanted to share some of the important things that have happened.

I’m not sure if you, at 16, decide to take a different path than I did if our life would turn out differently. We wouldn’t be there person we are today if we did things different. We would have the experiences that we have had.

So take what I have written and tuck it away and use it was a guide to what you are going to do.

And if I could leave you with one thing for you to take with you is you are special and love the people who are in your life. At the end, it really doesn’t matter who has the most toys.

OK, now I have to go lay down, all this writing to my 16-year-old self has given me a headache.

Take care, your wiser self

 

 

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